Until you learn this one important thing, you will live your life feeling beaten and bruised by the rude comments and inconsiderate actions of others. (And if you think that you’re going to be sure to surround yourself only by people who would never be mean, or you think you’re going to be able change someone, you’re living in lalaland. Even the most awesome of people can get cranky, short-tempered, and downright rude.) When you learn how to choose not to take offense, your happiness will be protected and will be far more consistent.
You may not be aware of it, but you have the power to protect yourself by guarding your happiness. Here are some quick ideas for HOW to avoid taking offense:
- Think of offense like a big beach ball. When it flies your way, just push it away. Whatever you do, don’t “take it” and continue to embrace it. GET RID OF IT.
- Learn to find contentment in what YOU think of your awesome self rather than through what others think of you
- Think of your feelings as puppet strings. One string is “hurt,” another is “anger,” others are “joy,” “contentment,” “approval,” etc. DON’T GIVE ANYONE THE POWER TO YANK YOUR STRINGS. You are not a puppet.
- Only the most trusted of people should have access to the strings that control your emotions. When you give someone the power to make you feel content, they also have the power to make you feel hurt. This is why it’s important not to make your self- esteem contingent on the approval of others, because when you do that, your self esteem will tank when that approval is withdrawn.
It’s an enormous undertaking to decide not to take offense, but it can be done. And the sooner you decide to do it, the better off you’ll be.
No offense = increased happiness = better life.
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About the author: Rhonda Sciortino, author of Successful Survivors , used the coping skills from an abusive childhood to achieve real success which she measures by good relationships, good health, peace, joy, and financial prosperity. Through her writing, speaking, and media appearances, she shares how others can use the obstacles in their lives as stepping stones to their real success. Rhonda can be reached at [email protected].